First love

Among my cardboard boxes, there is another. It’s plastic. A clear Tupperware container with a blue cover marked “Jen’s papers.”

I laugh a little at this because the markings on the masking tape are in my mother’s handwriting and I would have expected it to read “Jennifer’s papers.”

But Jen is shorter than Jennifer, shorter than Jenny, shorter than any of the names I answered to during the time of the papers. And easier to write on a label.

I opened this container a few months ago when the shipment arrived, and was first struck sick by the smell, a strong combination of mildew and 30-year-old paste.

I quickly secured the top back on  (imagining my own ironic, horrible scifi death by spores) and put it back on the pile of boxes for later review.

A bit heartbroken, I intended to throw the whole thing away. Clearly the papers inside were ruined; forgotten leftovers stored too long. But before I got rid of all of it I wanted to document the contents.  After all, my mother took care to fill this container over the course of a decade and to rescue it — not once, but many times — from basement catastrophe (flood, hurricane, divorce).

Despite potential ruin, after all these years, the Tupperware reached its destination: in the hands of grown-up Me. It would be a shame not to unload its cargo. Also, and most important, as a mother who hoards, I know well the affection wrapped up in the saving of those papers.

I approached the container again this week, when I had a few hours to myself during the day and when the weather was mild enough to be able to go through them in fresher air outside.

I took out our good camera and prepared to archive my findings.

I knew that most of what I’d find would be handwriting exercises, A+ papers, and art projects. Nothing extraordinary, I imagined, would be discovered inside. What could I possibly have produced in elementary school that would elicit any deeper emotions than sentimentality? On the other hand, my boxes  constantly surprise me and this one was no different.

Among the findings:

  • My first voting ballot — indecision written all over it — from a Weekly Reader in 1980. Anderson or Reagan for the Win? I had checked off both, though I wonder if the Reagan was an afterthought as I remember distinctly wanting Anderson.
  • A report on Voyager 2 when it was still hovering near Saturn
  • A now-vintage souvenir postcard sent to me and my brother (addressed to Miss Jennifer and Master Jason) from Disneyland
  • And, a drawing I made when I was three or four in which my mother’s image was a presence greater than anyone else on page, larger than me, larger than life.

I also found love letters.

Between me and Mrs. Aducat.

I completely forgot loving Mrs. Aducat.

Mrs. Aducat, who wasn’t even my homeroom teacher, not even the woman I spent most of my day with in first grade, but simply my reading teacher. The woman who taught me language, sentence construction, how to express myself with carefully crafted words.

Based on the persistence with which I sought her love, my affection was strong.

ms aducat i love you

Over the course of months, I wrote many love notes to Mrs. Aducat on the back of my writing exercises.

And she wrote me back.

“I love you, too, sweetie,” she wrote in red cursive on the back of one.

And with a smiling heart on another.

i love you too jenny

“Yes!” she answered me with an exclamation point one time when I asked her if she loved me too.

I even made it simple for her once. YES or NO, I wrote under two boxes. An ultimatum, perhaps?  If so, she took the bait and checked off YES. “Lots and lots,” she wrote underneath it in her red pen.

I am struck by this.

I am struck by the love given me by a grownup; not a relative, just a woman paid to teach me to read.

And I am struck by the unrestrained expression and bold audacity with which I expressed my love for her and asked for it in return.

Oh, to love and be loved again — unabashedly, without reserve — as I did, and was, when I was seven.

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This is one in a series of essays inspired by my cardboard boxes. If you like this post, and want to know how it began, read A Case for Hoarding. One post in the series, Note to Self,” was recently featured on Freshly PressedAdditional posts are tagged “the boxed set series“.

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15 thoughts on “First love

  1. This is great Jen. Don’t you think sometimes we are not “unrestrained” enough now. Schools have so many rules and regulations and I get that they’re for the better good and all that but that was a great! 🙂

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    • Can you imagine the consequences if such “love letters” were exchanged now? Makes me sad … though like you understand that they are for the benefit of our children in what has become a bit of a messed up world

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  2. This reminds me so much of when I found my first grade art projects. It was a portfolio of what I “loved” at the time. It was all about pies my mother would bake. Being made of construction paper, it has since disintegrated into the great classroom in the sky but I remember it as clear as day.

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  3. Great Piece! Accurately spoken that it was lovingly and painstakingly saved over many years and lots of events. And Mrs Aducat still loves in Voorhees NJ on the Kresson Golf Course in case you are interested.

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    • how tragic, Ellie! I wouldn’t say Mrs. Aducat was truly my first love, though she seems to have been the first recipient of my love letters!

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  4. Such sweet innocence! And so true that this would never happen nowadays. Just think of all those teachers out there who are missing out. I have a Mrs. Aducat, too, though I never actually professed my love…I don’t think. She was my grade 3 and 5 teacher. She actually found me on Facebook a few years ago to my delight. Maybe Mrs. Aducat is of the social networking variety?

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  5. Had goose bumps…..loved it. I too loved my first grade teacher, Tmima Zlotnick who was a true educator, a wonderful teacher, a mentor.

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  6. WOW! You always inspire me to go back and look for these priceless types of finds. First the letters and now this. (Though the few things I have stored away have not endured a flood, thankfully.)

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  7. Beautiful! My mother has plastic storage boxes of my stuff too. And I TOTALLY remember that Weekly Reader ballot! I voted for Reagan. Although I’m pretty sure the ballot is not to be found in any of my mother’s boxes 😦

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  8. You are so fortunate to have so many memories. And treasures like these. Happy for you that you (and your mom) kept them!

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